The hard part is over.
I'm matching you with one of our specialists who will be calling you in the next few minutes.
My mother, and apparently your DH?? , no longer have reasoning skills. You can talk, show examples, try to show all sides, try to reason, and in the end, YOU are the one who is exhausted, frustrated and just plain worn out.
Pick your battles. Tell your little white lies. Do whatever you need to do to keep the peace. I wish you luck. It is a very hard, rocky road.
Unfair- Yes, wasted time- yes . Problem solving strategy- saves the samity.
Unfortunately you pick your battles. If this is an annoyance or it is raising your blood pressure?
try to think up/research ways to problem solve this ( come up to bathroom door- i have the trash can here -throw it in)
or decide if this is the last straw you cant do anymore and look into services/health center
Dementia is terrible, I know. I hope you can manage a workable solution to this issue! Good luck!
It doesn't make any difference what you say to a person with dementia as they will think what they think.
I would either put a lock on the door to the trash or I would have a different Trash Container for trash that I use so at least there won't be trash mixed with his wet clothes.
I wouldn’t try fight against it,... just replace them back/find a trick.
You have to laugh so much of this is so awful. I'm stretched to the limit and so far, not this. So far.
My mom was regularly throwing out things we needed and we have huge bins for our trash...1 for trash, 1 for reyclables. Ultimately invested in some locks found on Amazon, with two cables that have loops in the end and meet and then you can run a small lock through the loops. We opted for a luggage lock with combination, so no one would have to chase down or lose a key. Did the trick.
I know that you are doing your best, and that it is frustrating.
Tomorrow, there may be something new in the way of behavior(s).
Your solution is great!
He may leave this behavior behind.
When he removes his clothes is the time to pre-empt this behavior by taking the clothes away. Even if you need to say: "Here, let me throw those away for you."
Make it a different color than other containers so he can easily pick the one for soiled clothes. You may still have to go through trash.
I have to ask ...does he have a lot of wet clothes? Is he wearing an incontinence brief? Either Pull up type or tab brief? Or is it a pad that is inserted in his regular underwear?
I would encourage going to the bathroom every hour or two. If he drinks a lot or urinates a lot then 1 time an hour might prevent some of the wet clothes.
As you say dementia provides something new everyday. If this is the only major "thing" at this point I would not stress a lot about it as it should be easy to catch most of the items that end up where they don't belong.