She is 95, lives in her home, terribly stubborn (always) and extremely hyper and unfocused. I've asked the Dr for something to calm her down. I think if she could relax a little, life would be MUCH better for both of us.But Dr says no. I'm on anti depressant and acid control drugs from the stress, been to ER 2 times' seems fair to me she should be too. ;) I had 32 calls on my cell and another 8 on the home phone on Christmas eve. Worried about dinner on Christmas, and then the time for the church service. It's always something. If she calls a couple minutes after I talked to her, I just won't answer. But it worries me that it COULD be important. She is in great health, so she is up and fretting all day, thinks she needs to drive, or that she does drive and do all the things she used to. Nothing is ever her fault. Someone ? looses her phones, messes up the TV remote, didn't tell her something important etc. She thinks she is always out of coffee, bread, whatever! Not. Been doing her shopping for 3+ years, been there for her for 34 years since my father died, and have totally taken care of her home and finances. At this point she demands it, even though she says she never asks anyone for help. She thinks she is capable of doing everything, when she isn't capable of much. Same as so many of you, I am burned out! 14 calls from her so far today (4 PM) About Christmas - she doesn't remember dinner, giving her money gift to the family, who was there etc.
Any ideas about the hyperactivity? How to explain the her Dr that she is driving us all crazy, herself included. This has been hard on my marriage, about destroyed my business, and taken it's toll mentally and physically, on me. I am 72, that's no spring chicken!
She has a wonderful home care lady 3 days a week, she has been a total God send. Tried a day care, but she hated it. She told me that those old people repeated themselves. I had to bite my tongue and not laugh out loud! Why can she remember what they say, and not me?! Oh well, I know it is what it is. But any suggestions would be valued.
And hugs to all of you going through this.