He lives in an apartment and doctors are trying to convince him he needs to go to a facility but he refuses. He has no family, no one to help him. He is so confused, unable to remember pretty much anything and is partially blind. I am CG with an agency. He buys stuff: has 3 walkers and a motorized chair for $200 that does NOT work at all. Never did. Looks like someone took a sledge hammer to it. People are clearly taking advantage of him. He cannot keep his apartment clean and just fired his housekeeper telling her that he now has someone that can do it... me. But... no... that is not possible. He keeps me running to the stores getting him groceries, clothes, shoes, prescriptions, etc. and I only am there 6 hours a week. She used to do the laundry and now I try to get that done with everything else he wants me to do for him. I helped him pay some of his bills but who knows what bills need to be paid and when? He does not. He needs to get to his appts. but he does not know when they are! He did not know who his primary doc was! I called the VA and found out, called that office and found out he has appt. in October. He did not know. But what OTHER things are NOT getting done that we don't know about? When a vet has no one who is POA... who can then act as one to help this man? I cannot do everything that he needs done. Thank YOU.
I've never contacted the VA for assistance prior to my father being registered, so I'm not sure what may be required, but I think at this point that's still probably the best avenue to pursue. The VA has probably addressed this kind of situation for others, and I'm sure would have procedures in place.
And there may be service related traumas affecting his confusion; the VA can identify these issues and determine appropriate courses of action.
Good luck, and thank you for being a caring person, especially for a Veteran.
I have a vague recollection of reading or hearing from one of my father's team that the VA could fast track some applications, especially someone of this gentleman's age.
I would not get anymore involved in what your job allows. You are enabling him. He needs to be placed for his safety.
If your are concerned about serious self neglect, report to Superviser & discuss reporting to APS.
If there is a medical emergency, report to EMS.
Stay within the scope of your role & summon more help for your client as needed. (It won't help him long term to blur your role).
Thank you for caring 😊❤️
Ask your direct manager to file if there is no mandated reporter.
The identity of who made the report is never disclosed to the client.
You can also file a report on your own.
APS deals with a lot of self neglect/exploitation like this sad situation.
APS can help cut through VA hurdles to get him assessed and get medical problems treated, APS can go to court to ask a judge to temporarily appoint someone as guardian of his property/money (often an attorney who works with adult protective services on these sorts of cases) to cut off access to his funds until the situation is clear.
Good luck.
Also, I think what @Kelkel was trying to say is that if you don't want to leave him to be stuffed in an often 1-star (almost disbarred) public Skilled Nursing Facility somewhere to get bedsores and neglect, you could make a HUGE difference (really life/death) by helping him locate a proper facility somewhere with memory care. The County social services people can help you locate places, sort how much money he has coming in and the places themselves can do the heavy lifting. They might pay you a commission (placement fee) too, leading to your new career as a placement consultant. It's really not that hard.
... it is way old with no response from the OP