My mom is very forgetful. She forgets his medicine, forgets what the care nurse says. Tells people she has it all taken care of.
I am the one who writes down everything, takes the phone calls, and gets the ball rolling. She thinks she is doing it. Fills in the blanks when she REALLY can't remember. Tells my dad that I call her stupid. My dad has more of a memory than my mother, who is his caretaker...
She won't let me take care of the medicine, and forgets if she gave it to him or not. I try to inform her of everything going on, is that wrong? She fills in the blanks on that too.
She is getting worse, and has gotten worse, since my dad may die, but I can't intervene. My mom has convinced my dad that I am trying to put him in a nursing home. HELP!!!
She has no filter, and tells everyone (even if she doesn't remember how it is)...she has everyone around our small rural area thinking I sit at home and never helps them. Very far from the truth. They both would be in a nursing home if it wasn't for me. I live next door, but have to have down time, after a day with her. Dad is fine with me.. I think he knows that his life is in HER hands.
She is always telling me he is pooping, I told her we need to take him to the doctor if he is having a bowel movement every hour. She says that it's his hemroids making him think he has to poop. I don't know what to think. Is it so that I won't stay in the room with him long. I can't talk with him alone, she sits right there and tells him I'm lying, that's not what happened.... About anything.
She tells me he's not eating, but then later tells me he eats.
My siblings live in other states. They don't want to know about anything. It stresses them out too much. They thank me for being there, but they can't make it down right now.
Any suggestions, or help?
Sorry if it sounds like I'm rambling....but, I'm about to lose it ;(