Mother, is 85 with heart failure and last stage of dementia. For last two weeks she constantly complains that she needs to go. She is bed bound. We give her stool softners and it is soft. We had hospice do enema a week ago, and same thing this week. She moaned and groaned and loudly prayed all night and most of one day, nurse came and did another one....and that was only a day and a half ago.Today and last night same thing.....how do others manage this problem....is she really hurting that bad, or just thinks she has to go and don't know how now....we are very confused. This is a distasteful subject, but one that has to be dealt with.