My mother is in a NH. She has been there almost three yrs. I don't know where to start. She had a stroke 10/8/19, which showed she had a brain bleed on right side of brain. She regained her strength in about 2 wks. She has not used walker for over a year. However she has been able to get from bed to w/c to bathroom etc. and had been going to bathroom as needed. After the holidays she has been eating a lot less and her incontinence has gotten worse. Since after the holidays, I go every day. I find her most of the time lying in bed not wanting to get up, not eating, at times refusing meds and refuses help from aids to clean up and change clothes. With me going every day, it is hit or miss as to whether I can get her to bathe and change clothes. I find her soaked in urine many times and do my best to clean her up. I need to mention that even though her dementia is bad, she knows to say NO! She refuses help from staff and when I visit, most of the time I am able to change her. At this point I have noticed, she does not know she has wet herself and her bed. I am at a loss at what to say or do. With me visiting her every day, she does not remember that at all. The NH said they had thicker pull ups or diapers, but I have yet to see them implement this yet. They never seem to have some products needed for residents on hand. I have purchase myself. I am at my wits end at this time! Anyone have suggestions on how to deal with this situation. I do have a meeting with the staff on March 4th. I do plan on having a list of my concerns. Would appreciate any thoughts on this matter!