I heard the CNA call my father and I went to check. His eyes were open, not blinking. He was totally unresponsive. Called 911. By the time he got to the ER he was responsive and answering questions. Doctor said it was a heart attack. Never had such a problem before. He will be in the hospital for a few days for testing. Mother had just come home from rehab a few days ago. Caring for such ill parents is a huge undertaking. He was in Hospice care and now has been removed because he is being treated. He can go back on Hospice once he comes back home. Has anyone dealt with a dementia patient who has had a heart attack? My father is 95 years old.
I agree about trying to care for two parents with major medical needs. This might be the perfect time to place your dad into a facility so you can manage your own life without going crazy with stress. When I had my dad in skilled nursing and mom in independent living, it just about killed me. Dad passed away after 3 months in skilled nursing. Between shuttling between the two places and keeping my mom's spirits up, I was exhausted. I can't imagine trying to handle them both at home.
I agree with Glad that caring for two very ill parents is extremely draining and stressful. And it is OK to back out of full responsibility for that care.