My mom is in her 5th year of dementia, has had a history of depression and anxiety. She wants to be home with her husband. His neglect has made her into a failure to thrive. Stays in bed, doesn't eat, drink and has given u0. She was treated for blood clots in both of her lungs from being in her bed over 18 hrs day. Wants to die and has lost weight. When she's with me and gets stronger she gets anxiety and is determined to go back home until I give in due to her behavior. Then she goes back and does the same thing. She was hospitalized for her lungs and now in a med psych unit and the want to do ect to help her depression. Not sure what to do.