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My grandma been incontinent for about a year now. I bought 40 diapers for her and less than 3 days she was out of them. I buy the ones that dry even if it's just a little bit of wet and apparently she changes them every time she leaks a little. I have no idea what else to do. Diapers aren't cheap really and medicaid won't pay for them so it's no way I can get them covered for her. So I was wondering if it is normal for someone to constantly change them or use them and refuse to change. Today she was wet completely and refused to change. You could smell that she messed in them but she fights with the staff and me. So if anyone has any advice on this, it will be a great help. I don't want her to be miserable either. Thanks!

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What is ever "normal" for a person with dementia?
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My mother uses pads in her regular panties, "just in case." She would not know how to place them (dementia), but my sister just puts on in each pair before she puts the laundry in Mom's drawers.
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Thank you everyone. Sorry for the diaper and normal things. I've used the pads and underwear but she tends to throw them away as well or hide them in her room and she mistakes them for another' person underwear. But I will try whatever I can to keep the price down. Thanks again!
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jnelson. Pullup disposable undergarments are made like panties with a heavy pad inside. You can reinforce them with an extra pad especially if you are travelling
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It sounds as though your GM is in a facility and if that is the case the "protective undergarments" or as I like to call them "Depends" whether they are that brand or not should be provided. If she is at home and has Medicaid they are usually provided by Medicaid at no cost. In the home you can probably get comfortable pull ups in the right size and they are usually pretty comfortable. In many hospitals and facilities the only "Depends available are the huge plastic things that tape at the side and almost impossible to change without assistance. Some places also will use a washable pad in the bed As everyone has said there is no normal with dementia
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I'm not sure what you mean by "pull ups,", whether disposable or not. You can get wonderful padded cotton panties with a thick pad in them (Google it/Amazon...). My mother has six pairs,as she wets through them 2-3 times a day. She needs a disposable pad inside them, too, which she changes a little too frequently at times, but at least we don't have the expense of disposable panties on top of the pads!
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My mother wears the pull ups and it is just in case of leaks. If I leave them out where she can see them she will change them every time she goes to the bathroom. I put them in the cabinet and give her one every morning to change into. If she ends up needing to change it during the day she knows where to find them. It is just when they are out in plane sight that she uses too many.
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My mother wears the pull ups and it is just in case of leaks. If I leave them out where she can see them she will change them every time she goes to the bathroom. I put them in the cabinet and give her one every morning to change into. If she ends up needing to change it during the day she knows where to find them. It is just when they are out in plane sight that she uses too many.
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My MIL changes her "protective undergarments" every time she goes in the bathroom needed or not,I love the idea of the pad!! Sara and Ray my MIL also changes her clothes 24 hrs a day from clothes to Pajamas at no particular time and for no reason that I Know of of course I have no idea what she is thinking!! She puts them in the dirty clothes every time she changes so I have to go and take them out and hang them back up when she naps!! She gets very angry if I say anything so I dont. If anyone has any suggestions for us it would be appreciated.We just insist she shower 3 times a week and I help her so I just dont give her a choice...so Far that is working but who knows for how long!!
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Elderly people do not wear "diapers". They are not children. They wear protective undergarments. That said, she probably is not changing because of the "wet" part, she just doesn't like the undergarment. I was going to suggest a mini-pad that just tapes to the crotch area of the panties, but she would probably not understand how to do that. There is a new over-the-counter patch called Oxytrol that will prevent those incontinent moments and made only for females. It is a patch put on the belly and it works. I tried it and it works. I bought it at Walmart and for $14 that is a 16 day supply. Try that.
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My sister was in charge of my mom with dementia. She would put a new disposable diaper on her in the morning and then use the pads inside the diaper. Then when she had a small leak she would just change the pad. This worked better than changing the whole diaper each time and saved a lot of money. She also set a timer to get her to the bathroom every two hours as to avoid "accidents" as well.
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My mother thought that I wanted her to change every time until it was explained to her that she was wearing them "just in case." Could Reusable diapers be an option at times? idiaper
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What's normal? My husband has Alzheimer's, he is not incontinent, but changes clothes 5 or six times a day....try keeping the less soiled ones where she can change into those again, slight of hand, just put them into the box for her to reselect...she probably won't notice...do you have trouble getting GM to shower or bathe? That's my current dilemma...
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