I've posted here many times throughout the years, since I've helped my mother and two aunts and their issues, and greatly appreciate the support I've received from those of you who understand. Now, it's just my mother and she is 90 years old, a classic narcissist, chooses to live in an apartment, while I help her out twice a week to shop, doctor, dental, and specialist appointments. We have family dinners once a month at my house with my sons and their families, which she attends. If there is an emergency, real or imagined, I make sure she gets where she needs to be. I am semi-retired, teaching two courses online every semester, which takes a lot of time, and we watch our grandson every Mon and Tues, which is a great delight to us. My mother increasingly demands more days to "get out," which just means more shopping. I have not given in, but have to put up with her outbursts when she refuses to take her anxiety medication or if she's feeling particularly ungrateful for all I do for her. I have IBS, likely from all the years of verbal abuse and mind games, and recently high blood pressure on occasion (which is not like me). My neighbor friend was being paid another day to take my mother to Bingo and/or drop her at church while my friend ran errands, but my friend had knee surgery and won't be driving for a few more weeks. My son offered to take my mother to church any time she wants (he lives only a few miles away), but she wants "someone to sit with her." Now my mother is trying to badger me into taking her to church once a month, but I truly don't want to spend another day with a person who is as miserable as her. Any suggestions?