In early spring my mom and I moved dad to a NH, thinking he would go anytime. For many many years he's had acute abdominal pain which could not be diagnosed. Quite a few doctors tried but couldn't find the answer. The NH along with hospice got him on a drug schedule of taking OxyContin every eight hours and another mes for breakthrough pain. He began to get much better. In the meantime, my mom who suffered from advanced COPD, began to quickly decline. After several trips to the ER and a few weeks in a NH, she passed away in a hospice house. We were all with her including my dad. Shortly after her death, dad moved into an assisted living facility. As long as he takes his pain meds he does great. We quickly realized that AL is nothing like the NH. While there is a DON, it seems as if the young women who man the nursing station know very little about nursing which has caused my dad to constantly stress and worry about not getting his pain meds. They have forgotten several times so I can't blame him for worrying. In the last day or so I've noticed him becoming confused and argumentative. He calls several times daily and at night claiming they've either forgot to give him his pain meds or they will forget him. He gets mad at us if we tell him to be patient. I'm an only child so no siblings to help out although I'm lucky to have a super husband who is always there. I'm wondering if we moved him too soon or maybe shouldn't have done so at all. He seems lost and confused all the time. I'd be grateful for any thoughts or opinions.