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"Maybe" hospice can be helpful for those facing imminent death, but in my experience nobody is willing to discuss how to achieve quality of life and a good death for people who are old and frail but may still have years left.
I tried a dementia support group and found people who were still in the very earliest stages or whose husbands were in a facility, nobody could commiserate with my reality (a frail, incontinent, confused woman who had already lived decades beyond predictions).
I spoke to a grief counsellor because of my anticipatory grief, but it was really not her area of expertise, and I was given the old line about returning to being her daughter and not her caregiver.
Even in the nursing home there was a huge reluctance on the part of nursing staff to acknowledge the fact that every nursing home is essentially a hospice facility - despite the fact that those women all routinely deal with death it was like some taboo subject. I wanted somewhere that I could go to help me understand what was coming - what supports were available, what other people's experiences were, the pros and cons of home vs facility.
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It is offered in my community several times a year, through the local library. When legal Medical Assistance in Dying was being discussed in Canada it was a way for people to get information.

It is not designed to help those in the trenches. Here Hospice (different from Hospice in the US) helps to fill those needs.

Death Cafe is to help people discuss Death which is often a taboo subject until one is faced with the reality.
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Searched it here on AC too, sounds like cwillie is right. More a philosophical discussion than practical tool.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/death-cafe-grab-a-drink-talk-about-death-159860.htm
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I have. When I first read about it I was in the trenches with caregiving and in desperate need to find somewhere to talk about end of life issues so I did a lot of reading and web surfing. Everything I saw about death cafes made me roll my eyes - it just didn't seem to encompass what I was looking for.

editing to add - it sounded more like a bunch of people sitting around having an informal discussion about philosophical questions than a place where you could meet other people in the trenches and talk about real, present day problems and solutions
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No, but I googled it and found there are over 4000 in the US. They even have a Facebook page.
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