Had a bit of argument yesterday with Dad about selfishness. Wife was working, so took my 5 year old to see him and agreed we'd go somewhere. Theres a country park about 20 mins away - it's got ducks and a play area so my little girl gets to do something as well.
Anyway, so she was good as gold in the car. Got there and Santa was there too! So they wanted to see. Dad moaned and moaned that I should tell her she could see Santa another time, because he just wanted a cup of tea then leave and be home before it got dark. (Cars have lights Dad!). So I told him to do one and left him to sit in the car and wait - he was not happy!
This is typical of him these days. Its all about him and no-one else. Yet another example of his treatment of my kids. Its as if he thinks I should "section off" part of my time every week and this time should be 100% dedicated to his every need.
My wife now won't speak to him, avoids him, and to be honest, hasn't got a nice word to say about him. Yes he's my Dad but I can't say shes not totally right. At the moment, he really is probably the most selfish person I've ever met.... Sad really.
I've talked to him nicely and explained that he needs to think of other people and that 5 year olds dont really understand why they can't do something..... In one ear and out the other.
In his head, my duty is free up my time for him to do what he wants me to do and when he wants it.