Does anyone have any recommended reading or just inspiring thoughts about dealing with an N father in law? I've known for a while that DH's sister was an N but I am seeing clear evidence that his father is one too. We have been married for 4 years now (we married in our 40s) and up until last spring we got along well with his father. Now because DH's father isn't getting his way, I feel like a mask got ripped off and we are seeing incredibly bad and irrational behavior. Excuse my French but it feels like hell trying to stand up to him. He is 87...I do not want to argue with an 87 year old man. We've gotten to the point though where we can't ignore him and we can't cave any further. Just looking for some thoughts ,,inpsiration or words of comfort so I don't feel so awful. Luckily we aren't dealing with immobility or finance issues. Just really bad behavior for now.