My Dad lives on a locked memory care unit and I like to take him out frequently. He has a girlfriend, also on the memory care unit, that I used to take out with him with her family's permission. That is, until she started refusing to return to the locked unit and then running down the street without minding traffic. I find this a dangerous situation so I don't take her along anymore, not to mention a legal grey area if she got hurt or killed on my watch. But frequently when I stop by to get my Dad (3-4x/wk) they are together and she gets upset when she can't come along. Sometimes I'm successful in coordinating 1) staff members who separate them prior to my visit 2) outings that include her family or 3) reaching my Dad on his cell phone prior to a visit to let him know his girlfriend isn't invited. However inevitably this does not always work out. Staff members have much higher priorities and I totally understand this or they separate them but still she manages to find me; the girlfriend's most devoted caregiver just moved 3000 miles away; my Dad forgets his phone or forgets how to work it. I've explained the situation to my Dad over and over but he still invites her along. So every visit is filled with tension. Last visit she followed me onto the elevator and nearly left the facility with me; I got the assistance of the receptionist but it was a close call. If anything ever happened to her I would be devastated and feel responsible.