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My Father, who has Alzheimer's/Dementia, makes a mess 100% of the time around the toilet. I go in afterwards and find urine on the seat, floor, base of toilet. After bm's there is feces residue on the seat, his hands, on the wall. He doesn't wear adult diapers because he does make it to the bathroom. It's when he is in there the mess happens. I'm at my wits end cleaning up after every bathroom visit. He never flushes and doesn't wash his hands. I've asked him to flush especially after a bm and he contends that he always flushes! I told him he doesn't and he said it must be someone else and not him. It's very frustrating! I keep a bottle of diluted bleach in a spray bottle and an old rag by the toilet to clean up. Everytime! Please does anyone have any suggestions? Thank you!

Do u have a husband. If so, have him tell Dad to sit when urinating. Maybe its time for someone to be with him in bathroom.
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Ahmijoy Aug 21, 2019
I was thinking the same thing. They don’t have to stand there and stare at him, but supervise and be able to “adjust and suggest” if they see something about to happen. A handicap accessible toilet can help as well. They are higher and easier to use.
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Please be careful with flushable wipes as they are not truly “flushable” and can build up in the plumbing. And, if he uses too many at once, you could have a very expensive plumber’s bill.
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LuceeLuv Aug 21, 2019
Th Thank you!
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Hi Lucee, I agree with putting notes in the bathroom. Simple statements as reminders. Your Dad just can’t remember all he has to do in there which is very typical with dementia. You’ll have to continue to Clorox the seat and surrounding floor area as he is not able to do his business neatly anymore. I keep a large container of Clorox wipes under the bathroom sink and it has just become my routine to go in and wipe down areas quickly. Your Dad is lucky to have you. It’s far from easy I understand. Keep coming back to this forum as wonderful people here with tons of knowledge and experience.
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LuceeLuv Aug 21, 2019
Tug Thank you! In divorced and only surviving child so I'm the only one to care for him. I think a higher handicap seat might be helpful. I'll just keep cleaning up after him with the bleach. It's just so good to be able to vent my frustrations somewhere people understand! I'm not alone. Thank you for readingand responding to my post. ❤❤
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Put notes on the wipes so he remembers to use them. Put a note on the mirror as well or anywhere else he will see while going..... this will remind him to do the clean up .(while your at it maybe make sure you have flushable wipes to use for BM’s). Feel for you I have four men at home and they don’t have memory issues and still have to do the notes for them.
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LuceeLuv Aug 21, 2019
Th Thank you for your advice!
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