She also get a shower. Mom lived very independently for a long time. Some family and friends thought she was the sweetest, most generous person but on the other hand she didn't always get along with neighbors and was often overly suspicious of some home businesses, sometimes with good reason. I don't think she can be talked rationally out of the tantrums, which are sometimes over very minor, temporary things, and I still can't get the hang of distracting or telling white lies to divert her attention, and I feel bad for the staff or people who just got yelled at by her. Worried that I am losing my feelings for her as my Mom when she is in this state, losing my ability to connect to her as a human being. Any regular or religious books to recommend or websites? She's in a temporary living situation that is not ideal and not to her liking but I fear it will be the same whereever she goes, she won't participate in activities, will act out sometimes, feel paranoid, etc. Exhausted by all of this. Help please!