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I'm disabed myself and mum was partly my carer. She died suddenly of heart attack here at home. She was only 78. My sisters and I are so angry with the hospital and the doctors for sending her home telling us she was ok. She died 5 hours later here at home. It was such a traumatic experience, I don't think we will ever get over it

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Hi myself, I'm sorry you lost your mom so suddenly and tragically. I have no pat answers, but I would be every bit as upset as we hear you and family to be. Sending you luv and support for peace and comforting during this awful time. You may consider getting those hospital records right away, just hold on to them for now, until you are ready to look into further. (just in case something would be changed in the record, you could later prove that. If u do consult an atty, be sure to consider the ins carrier's part- they seem to preempt the clinical care decisions far too often. Also, usually a 23 hour observation bed is often allowed by ins, so ER could have at least asked for that much time to further assess your mom's condition. I am sorry things were not handled the way we would all hope, and that you have lost your mom so tragically. I hope you will have someone able to provide you with the help you need. There really are no words that are adequate, but know this is a community of people who genuinely care for one another, and welcome you to come back often, as you process your sadness, Kimbee
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Dear myself,
I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mum. I can feel the anguish that you and your sisters feel. Shame and disgrace to that hospital who discharged your Mum. The US may have the greatest medical care in the world but now it seems like making money is their number one priority instead of truly caring for people who need to stay in the hospital. I agree with what NancyH said about researching if the hospital was negligent. It sure seems that they were. How could the doctors tell you that Mum is ok? I mean, if they did the right blood tests and other tests, your Mum shouldn't have passed away 5 HOURS after you took her home. Even for observational purposes, I believe that the doctor should of let her stay.
Same story with my Dad, many times I believed that they should of admitted Dad for observational purposes and brainstorm Dad's condition out more precisely, but did not. After so many ER visits that I cannot count, the last visit and ER doctor finally had the common sense to diagnose Dad after months and months of sickness, pain, and emotional and physical distress and ER visits. And it was a simple diagnosis--Dad had impacted bowels and no doctor had the simple intelligence to take an xray of his stomach! When I heard that I flew thru the roof with anger. But being sick for so many months, and the excruciatingly painful enema took Dad down and he never recovered.
Then the first care home abused Dad then he went to another care home, but he was going down so fast that they didn't have the common sense to call us and tell us that till it was too late. Dad should of been in hospice. I have lost ALL confidence in all care homes--even the exclusive ones, the one Dad was in. I carry a lot of guilt for not recognizing all of this in the first place. Now I blame all the ER doctors, the care home, and even his PCP. But my hindsight is always 20/20 isn't it?
After 4 months I still cry for Daddy and now Mom is in hospice and I cry for her too. She went downhill fast as soon as Daddy passed even though she was not that sick, but was going downhill slowly, Dad's passing just made it faster for Mom--she had colon cancer 2 yrs ago and it is metastic now. So, double whammy for me this year.
I am so sad for you to have your Mom go home and then pass so soon after bringing her home. Please go to the Lord for strength, guidance, help, PEACE AND COMFORT. Now, Jesus is the only one who can help you. He will never leave you nor forsake you even if the world around you crumbles and the mountains fall into the sea. Do not lose faith in HIM. May the Lord give you His peace, may the Lord make His face shine upon you, may the Lord grant you mercy, grace, and compassion.
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{{Myself}} I am so sorry for your loss. I pray all your happy memories soon bring comfort to you and your family.

We suffered a similar loss a few years back. My uncle went for his yearly check up with all the tests involved including cardiac stress and different non-invasive type tests. Got a perfect bill of health at 67 years of age. Less than 3 hours after being home, he sat in his recliner and was gone before my aunt turned around after answering the phone.

Sudden deaths are so very traumatic to the family. The initial shock and the unanswered questions just take time to heal. My aunt told everyone she was at peace just knowing he never suffered for a moment. That is really what we all want for our elderly, no sufferering.

God bless!
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Should the hospital be held responsible for your mom dying suddenly? I mean if they ARE really negligent I certainly would look into that. I know it's cliche` but TIME really is the only thing that helps in the end. My own mom died last year, and still I find myself wishing I could talk to her about some stupid thing that I know she'd appreciate, or laugh at. I still have my dad, but as much as I love him, he's not mom. Sorry.
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