Dealing with death after caregiving. Any advice?

Doodlebug,
That was my sisters nickname. given to her by our Father.

I understand your feelings and grieving. Your life is now so very empty.
After Luz passed, I just hung around the house and moped along. I finally realized I needed to get out and do something. I just walked around the stores to see people living their lives.
That helped me a little. I did not stop grieving but it helped. Then I started to use the memories to help me. All of the little things she did or that we did together. All of that helped me even more.
Yes I was sad and still lonely but I have all of those beautiful memories. some still make me cry and I am glad for that. I just don't cry as much. I smile more and enjoy the memories.
I even talk to her pictures now and then. Silly isn't it. I don't care, I do it anyway.
This month marked one year since her passing and I made it just fine.
You will too eventually.
Best of luck and be patient.

Great big warm hug!🤗

Cut yourself a break, it has only been a month after 10 years.

What you are experiencing is normal and it is a terrible time for the world, so that adds to your grief I am sure.

Find little ways to help yourself smile daily. Get physical and get that dopamine flowing in your system.

May God give you grieving mercies and comfort during this difficult time. May HE help you over this difficult time a stronger person.

I do not know what to say, but I will try my best, God bless you for taking care of your dear mom for ten years. . We are very fortunate to have such wonderful mothers and I feel it is a gift from God. I am so grateful, but I know when the time comes and if my mother passes before me I will probably have the feelings you do. It has only been a month. You need time to grieve, of course your heart is broken, mine will be too, maybe some counseling might help, my faith helps me cope with life problems. I lost my dad and it was so hard, I cried off and on for a year. It is so early for you, cry, and let it out, it is ok. My niece suggested getting a pet, she lost her mother at age ten and her dad at age 29, she cried every day for six month for both of them. She lived with two dogs for two years. One dog would come up and cuddle with her, she said it comforting. Family was very helpful too. Are you close to any of your siblings? It is tough being alone after a parent dies. Any chance you can stay with a family member for awhile? My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time in your life. Private message me if you want to vent. Hug to you!
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Doodlebug, I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't experienced the type of loss such as yours. I have seen in others that grief is a process that doesn't look or feel the same from person to person. Right now it may feel like it's a permanent state but it probably is not unless you choose it to be. You had such a long and intimate relationship with your mother, I can't imagine grieving would go "easily". There are support groups for those in grief and you may want to check one out so that you're in the company of others who CAN understand what's going on inside you, and they will probably have wisdom for your suspicion of depression and what to do about that. You were so valiant and selfless in caring for you mom all those years. Now it is time to do the same for yourself. May you receive peace in your heart and soul as you work through your grief.