My 78 year old mother lives with me and my daughter half the year. She can be quite controlling, but she's widowed and has suffered from shingles this year so I've done my best to help take care of her. She doesn't like it when people suggest she do things so that's been quite challenging. A few days ago, we got into a fight because she undermined me in front of my daughter, who I had gotten after for not doing something I'd asked her repeatedly to do. I'm a single mom. My mom went into my 5-year-old's room and helped her with the task in dispute and my daughter later came out to say she and Granny "were going to let me have time to cool down." I found this incredibly disrespectful and after my daughter went to bed, I told my mom that. I asked that in the future, if she didn't agree with my parenting, she talk to me about it privately. She said she was sorry I was upset but she felt it was appropriate to help my daughter and she did it knowing I would get mad and she didn't care. The conversation didn't improve and I gave up and went upstairs. Now, for the past two days she has been giving me the silent treatment.
I'm at a loss what to do. I don't think I asked her to do anything more than respect my decisions as a parent, but she refused. And how she's trying to punish me in my own home. She's used the silent treatment on me and other family members in the past.
Is it wrong to consider asking her to go home to her house, which is several states away? I'm wondering if there are other things I can do to try to alleviate the pressure in the house. Thank you.