1. Mom passed 12 years ago, no will, no living trust. Left me and my brother a small account, Dad has been hiding it from us and trying to cash it out, but bank won't let him, and they are sending him the statements still in Moms name. Can he get an attorney to help him get access to the account? We've just been sitting back and watching him to see what he does because we know if we confront him about it, he'll lose his temper and do who knows what. Possibly more damage than actually cashing out the account.
2. Mom also left my youngest daughter a small college fund, daughter is heading off to college next August. Every time Dad gets mad at me, or wants attention from anybody in the family, he threatens to pull the college fund out from under my daughters feet. The fund consist of savings bonds still in moms name, and some small CDs he is beneficiary to. Probably nothing we can do about it, but thought I'd ask. I'm tired of having him threaten me with the college fund my mom worked to save for her grandaughter. My mom was actually the bread winner of the family made 55,000 a year, 12 years ago, my dad made 14,000 a year working part time.
3. Dad is getting violent and more threatening, problem is he has a long history of this. My brother and I were abused as children, black eyes, welts from beatings, etc... We've both risen above our childhood, but Dad is getting worse. He threatened me last night worse than I've seen in years, if he were younger, he would have bounced my head off the kitchen table and had me on the floor kicking me like he used to. We know this behavior is not Alzheimers or Dementia, it's the way he is, can we have him moved to a home for this type of behavior now before he hurts someone? He will not cooperate with this, no way, no how, and would seek revenge.
Any ideas or discussion as always, much appreciated. Sorry to bring the ugliness to you all today.