She is 88 and lives alone. She accuses me of messing up her appointments and calendar. She has delusions which the doctor knows, but he has not diagnosed dementia yet. She needs something to ease anxiety. I can't take the daily, constant irritability and accusations, and I am the only adult child who will take her anywhere. My brothers do paperwork but no categorizing at all. She has always tried to control me, and now it is magnified. It is really wearing me down emotionally. I am afraid to call her or visit each time because I know I am going to get bombarded with accusations of making mistakes. Nothing is ever her fault. It never was, so a much worse attitude now. She lives to start an argument. It is really hard for me to keep quiet. If I do keep quiet, she gets very snippy and vicious, putting words in my mouth and mocking me. This is so hard. Suggestions welcome!