I have Metastatic cancer, now in remission for now and a host of serious health challenges. I am the youngest of 4. The two oldest siblings have not visited our mother in years and years since they no longer need her to babysit their children. One never, ever calls. One helps on occasion but only when I ask, never offers. I have asked for help and it falls on deaf ears. I love my mom and know that she may have to go to a nursing home. But since I am the only child that shows her love, I don't also want to be the one to reject her. I have been the one that she can always count on. I honestly want to shame my siblings by telling everyone that is important to them how horribly narcissistic and cruel they are. But that is not my style. I do not in any way regret caring for my mother. It is an honor. But the rage at my siblings is actually destructive to my health. I chose to do this and they did not ask me to. But what kind of people are they to not care in the least? My doctors shake their heads at their level of selfishness. Some have suggested that my siblings at least offer money as I am no longer working. I am the poorest of all my siblings. Sigh. Never even an offer of that. And what is the worst is that my siblings have never once thanked my husband who has sacrificed his privacy, his special time with his ill wife to care for our mother.We care for her 24/7 with only one night off once per year in the summer when my husband is on vacation. One one night. I chose to love my mom and have a committed to that. But my relationship with my siblings will never be repaired. I am so heartbroken at their level of selfishness and narcissism. I feel utterly abandoned.