How do I deal with my mother's spontaneous rages?

Is her doctor aware of this behavior? We needed to change mom's med when it was apparent it wasn't working to calm her

Thank you for the advice. She is on Paxil for anxiety. She gets so mean and cruel and her eyes get glazed over. She throws things within her reach. Believe me there is no way she can be talked to during these "episodes". She is in an uncontrollable rage. I try to calm her down but she keeps on screaming and cursing. It's like walking on eggs not to anger her even more

"I wonder how such a nice lady like you could have raised such an inadequate daughter."

You are in the midst of some very trying times, which unfortunately can last a very long time

There is no easy path here but is mom on meds for agitation or anxiety?

Try to come up with a phrase to say to yourself when she's ranting at you - hard to do I know but this will end (at some point), or agree with her and say aloud, I know - isn't that awful

I used to cry daily because of the way my mom would talk to me. Finally I just had to suck it up and mk now it is just the disease talking, not my mom. Now we actually smile and laugh. My mom is stage 7 Alzheimer's... Doesn't really talk, just mostly rambles at this point, but she still gets her did in. This morning she started with, "I hate...I want....you're stupid" My husband and I just smiled at each other and said to each other, "take that"....we just let it all roll off these days. Try not to take it personal, it truly is just the damage to the brain causing that.