Just do not want to be the only one. I am just tired of her honing in on me. I do not mind helping her. I just do not want to become her only chosen option. I work by choice and do not want to alter my life because I can make it easier for her in her needs. How do you deal with someone who has the financial means to hire help and other family members willing and able, but you are the one to get stuck with your elderly mother's wants and needs?