So 10 days ago we took Mom to the ER and she was evaluated for assisted living or skilled care. Moms been diagnosed with vascular dementia as well as several co- morbidities. She is now in a secure dementias unit as she tends to wander and was always wanting to call police to investigate who we were and where she was. She hallucinates and has delusions all day every day. We know none of us can care for her on our home or her apartment. Medicare paid for 7 days which run out tomorrow and then we're self pay. Moms resources will run out in a few short months do we're gong through the Medicaid application process. How do you deal with the guilt of knowing you can't bring her home? My heart breaks every time I see her. Now she's taken to asking the nursing staff to call me so she can beg me to take her home. She doesn't really know where home is. The staff tells us she can be redirected and generally settles down after a while. I guess I'm interested in some coping mechanisms for dealing with the guilt. Never in my life did I imagine we would be dealing with this. I do believe Mom is getting good care but my heart breaks every day.