My husband's grandmother passed away 2 years ago from early Alzheimers (age 62). She left behind his grandpa who had previously suffered from mulitple strokes and heart attacks (he lost the ability to move his right side but still manages to operate a vehicle).
At the time, my MIL her 13 yo old daughter, 18yo old son, 21yo old son and his gf, and MIL's live in bf) and her brother (recently released from prison) were living with him but not really contributing. We were asked by grandpa to come live there and help out financially which would cut us a tiny break (~$100) in our rent.
After everyone besides grandpa moved out, we moved in.
We had no idea what we were getting ourselves into. We were told we would end up with the house if/when anything happened to him; and that is no longer the case (this really only plays a part as we were not looking to move from where we were until we were ready to buy, but my husband liked the idea of possibly never having to move again, from his grandparents home).
I am a SAHM raising 3 kids (5 years, 3 years and 9 months) I am overwhelmed as it is (this house and property are much larger and older than our last) and trying to mesh two styles of living (his hoarding, unhealthy eating, unhygienic living, excessive gift buying, overuse of chemicals and air fresheners, etc.) is running it's toll on me and providing a chaotic environment for our kids.
I cook and launder for him. He lives in one large family room that is seperate from ours only by an interior door. He only shares our children's bathroom for his shower and the second closet in our boys room.
How do I deal?
When do I know I've had enough?
I want my children to respect my husband and I, as well as great grandpa...but how does that happen?