How do you deal with horribly bad behavior in public?
And I'm back, lol. How do you deal with bad behavior in public?
I Have been trying to help my mom get her car fixed this last week as she's still driving. The week actually started out with me going to the insurance adjustor to see if they would cover part of a new paint job as her car is nearly 20 nyears old, in really good condition and she refuses a new one. We made it through the appointment with the adjustor, no problem but that day the car started to have a squeek she made me call my brother who recommended a great place.
We took the car down, they looked at it gave us a very reasonable estimate and she decided she wanted to sleep on it. No problem, all seemed well she's being pretty reasonable. We take the car back the following day, check it in and she's aware of the cost, the time it's going to take everything, she also is going to borrow my car for the duration so she's not put out at all. Then, when she gets in the car she throuws this baby fit temper tantrum with me cursing ans swearing because they cant fix the car that day, although she's been told that parts needed to be ordered and would be in the following day.
That was Tuesday. Car was ready this afternoon and as we drove to get the car she started in on me about how shes unhappy has been for years and its my responsibility to help her so she'll be happy. Yup, she said those words. When we get to the shop and she gets the bill which is much less than teh approved estimate, she flew off the handle and was just having a fit about everyone trying to screw her. it was like a switch was flipped and she was the rudest, nastiest person. The owner, trying to make conversation asked her what she had done for work before she retires and her response was kissed peoples A@@. I was shocked and totally embarrassed and it just got worse. The sarcasm and veiled accusations were pretty thick and I was just dying to get the heck out. She basically told the shop owner that she wouldnt be driving much longer, she was sure her kids would see to that cause we were so concerned about her, sarcasm so thick you could mortar a bridge with it. Then when he casually asked about the 4th of July she said she thought it would be quiet, maybe she could find a can a WD40 put a hole in it and see if it would blow up! I'm thinking what the heck! Mortification. I'm not sure if a batch of chocolate chip cookies will suffice for an apology and I'm not sure how to address it with her. She got in her car and left before I could say anything to her and that was the last I saw of her today.
Does anyone have any suggestions besides just cutting her off. Right now, thats what I'd really like to do but the "good daughter" guilt is just horrible.