As a PS to my previous post about activities for my mom, I wanted to also ask how others in my situation dealt with the guilt. i feel so guilty for not being able to allow my mom to live with us. I am married, my husband of 20 years works offshore on the oil platforms and is gone 2 weeks out of every month. He is home the other 2, and when mom lived with us before he was very good about dealing with her, making her lunch, etc., but she has declined so much in the last 2 years that she really needs assisted living, or an in-home caregiver. However, in my home that would be disastrous, I have my daughter and 10 month old grandson living with us now. My mom is very negative, and as I said has profound hearing loss even with hearing aids and is VERY JEALOUS and gets very agitated when somebody has even a few word conversation that she gets left out of. She starts the pity party of being left out and cries. I understand that it must be hard but it's also hard to expect a room full of people to ALL stop and direct their comments towards her, talk slowly and loudly, etc. so she will feel included. It's just human nature to get caught up in a conversation. Also, she can't amuse herself anymore, and she follows me around like a puppy. When I leave the room, she is constantly inquiring about where I went, and if I do go away for a few minutes she chastizes me for being "gone so long". I know I shoudl take care of my mom in her old age, but I'm afraid that if I took her in it would be at the sake of my own sanity and my marriage. How, then, do I leave her crying in her room when I leave from visiting her? It breaks my heart. Any suggestions?