my husband, my 18 month old daughter and i live with my grandmother in law. she is almost 80. she has been showing signs of denmentia, and its clearly getting worse. she is aggressive and never stops complaining, yelling, screaming, and just being cruel. She thinks people are always yelling at her when they aren't, and she misplaces everything then accuses everyone of theft. she blames everything on everyone and she picks fights, harrasses and never stops arguing but acts like its everyone else arguing and she did nothing wrong. she also lacks complete compassion for anyone except her late husband. she is also extremly controlling. Anyways, im writing this because i am afraid she has abused my baby. My daughter is extremly afraid of her. she cries and screams and runs away when she gets close to her. there have been times where my baby will be trying to nap and i will be doing housework. janet will come in and very pissed off, yell at me about how the baby is crying and wont nap. even through teething and everything, my baby is a great sleeper. never fusses about naptime or bedtime, sleeps all night, shes great. my daughter only cries and screams if she is in alot of pain, or scared. i never saw a mark on her until four days ago. and grandmother in law was angry and told me baby wasbt sleeping. it took 20 mins to calm her down. thats not normal at all. im a stay at home mom and always around my baby. i know when something isnt right with her. anyways after i finally got her calm, janet tried to come around her and poor baby got extremely upset all over again tried to climb over my shoulder to get away from her, and a day later i noticed this really big deep dark mystery bruise on her arm. i instantly felt my heart drop.to my stomach and i knew thats not a bruise from a fall. What the heck am i supposed to do? my husband wilk not leave his grandma. we have been year for several years trying to help her. ( me 8, him 12). i cant risk my childs safety but without my husband, i have nowhere to go. no friends houses, parents or anything. i want to talk to her doctor. the only thing is, she complains to her doctor about us, she makes us seem like the most horrible people when all we do is help her not get hurt, make her food, run her errands , literally everything. and we are very patient and kind to her. but the doctor thinks otherwise because she puts on a charade for other people. im afraid her doctor wont listen and tell her what i said, and that will cause 100 more problems. i really dont know what to do anymore and i dont how much more of this i can take. i really need help and i just dont know what to do.