I am a 54 yr old women and daughter of a 82 yr oldwomen. i am doing it all, when you are the only one doing care giving, it really does get very over whelming. and sometimes all the communication in the world does not work,when you have a very controlling mother at 54 years old you want to be respected and treated like an adult.i love my mother very much but will not allow her to control me any longer with her put downs and guilt trips. none of my siblings.have even asked if i need help with her. i guess they could care less! that my mother just longs to be needed and wanted by her children. i am very hurt by there uncaring selfish ways.yes my mother is controlling but she still is human and needs her other children to understand she misses them very much.in defense of my younger brother he does make a yearly trip to visit his mother.it's my older brother who has not made a trip out to see my in 6 years oh ya he did visit her for an over night trip but really didn't stay very long.i have a lot of anger towards my three older siblings.they need to step up and help with her care, but i will grow old waiting for them to do so.they are just to selfish to reach out to her.i do have a lot of anger in me,i do attend groups etc to help me deal with the stress.i just feel it's very unfair of my siblings to leave all the responsability to me.i do enjoy being with my mother but i have taken a few weeks away from her.to regroup my mother she is very independent most of her issue's deal with being lonely and missing human contact.i really do try to be there for her but we live 30 miles away from each other and i have no transportation.i have to depend on her to pick me up.am on Disability income and just can't afford a car.and there is no public transportation very Rural area in AZ.it's really very hard on me.