I recently had to place my 95 year old aunt in an assisted living facility. She had fallen & broken her hip in October followed by a hip replacement. It was a full time job researching facilities, calling, visiting, interviewing, you name it. I found a wonderful facility but each time I visit her she says "This place is killing me!" or "Why did you bring me here?" or "You never asked me where I wanted to go! I want to go home! I can take care of myself!". Today was the worst when my 87 year old mother & I tried to pay her a visit & it ended in a shouting match between my mom & aunt, my aunt screaming "You don't want me anymore! My own sister!". When I speak to the staff they all say the same thing: "I'm shocked! Your aunt is adorable! Everyone loves her!". Am I crazy? She keeps saying she's going to walk out the front door someday & find her own place to live. It's just so awful. Christmas Day was by far the most depressing one we've ever spent. My poor 12 year old daughter should not have to experience this sort of behavior at this point in her life on what's to be a joyous holiday. How do I talk to my aunt? How do I respond when she shouts at me & my mother? Any words of advice are greatly appreciated. I cringe each time I'm on my way to visit her then when I come home & get deeply depressed. HELP!