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I am the oldest child and daughter without any help from family for the care of my father so the entire care of my father belongs to me. I was wondering if there are any other daughters in the same position.

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I take care of my Mom in my home, 7 years. Its just me except for one can who helps during the weekday mornings to bathe her. Long road!
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I'm the main caregiver for my folks, bith in their 90's. Have been so for, forever. I helped them downsize their home one time (before I was even married) and now am trying to help them again. I helped them with their parents (especially my mom, with her mom, as dad couldn't stand the lady or vice versa). Now that niether drives, I find myself doing many more hours per week. Their entire social lives revlved around getting in their car and driving someplace, and there isn't any senior vans in our town. They wouldn't want to take public transit anyhow, never used it their entire lives. Its tough being the only one of 5 kids who actually does something for them. The rest, only call when they want something, never visit (well maybe every 5 yrs. ...). Some send a Xmas card with just their names signed, and a glorious typed letter describing how they went to Hawaii, or Brussels, or New Zealand.....I read these letters and literally weep. Somehow visiting the far reaches of that world has become oh so much more important than visiting the parents who in a blink of an eye will be oh so far out of anyone's reach....in Heaven.
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I have my 92 yr Mom with me.. It's been 13+ yrs.. She just recently goes to Adult Day Care 3 days a week.. She also has Home health aid 3 times a week an hour at a time to shower her.. She has to pay for Adult Day Care, but HHA is through state Elderly Services and it costs her $9 a month...

I have 6 siblings.. I am the youngest.. One sister comes on Sunday from noon until Mom's bed time.. The others don't visit or call...
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just started taking on this I have both parents next door to me and sometimes I just don't no what to do
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I cared for my dad in my home for 5 years. He was a wonderful man who passed away in May 2013.
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My mom (alz) recently died and my dad lives with my family now. However, my sons are a great help with my dad. They can do anything that I can do. Well almost, barhroom issues are left solely for me. My dad has mobility issues but house is all handicap accessible. My mom may have required a lot of help, but dad is definitely very high matenance and.. I Love Him Dearly.
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I am an only child, and My dad and mom live with us. dad has ALZ and mom is a huge help,but it takes it toll I have no one except Hubs and daughter ( living on her own and with a job) to help. I know your pain
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yes I am in that situation, 5 of us and I have the complete burden. I love my dad and will care for him no matter what but I am definetly having burnout symptoms.
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I was a caregiver to my father. I was not the only one as he required round-the-clock care due to paralysis. My sister could not take the same role as I, as she lived over an hour away. I had his credit card, debit card, check book and insurance card. I was the grocery shopper, prescription getter, bill payer, paperwork & phone call manager.
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I am caring for my father with no help from siblings. I am in a different situation tho because my mom is still around so i am really caring for both of them. They dont live with me but i am their primary caregiver.

Tough situation..no help from family and being completely responsible for their care. Welcome to the club..;)
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