Daughter wants us out of her home within six months from today. Where do we begin looking for assisted living?

You have received great answers. I hope you will find a place suitable for your needs.

Best wishes to you and your husband.

Please note, this is a not a recommendation of any of the facilities listed, I just hope browsing through the list might give you something to start your research with. Best of luck.

randolph6, so sorry to read about your hubby. I know you wish to move to where ever hubby needs to be, but that may not be practical. Sounds like he needs Assisted Living/Memory Care. Usually the rooms are small studio apartments for one person only. Or as my Dad referred to his "college dorm room".

Could you still live with your daughter if hubby moves to Memory Care? How far advance is his Alzheimer's/Dementia? Does he recognize you all the time?

My Dad live in Memory Care and was a major fall risk. The facility had no problem with a two person lift up. Dad was paying $7k a month rent in our area [prices vary from area to area], which included daily housekeeping and linen service [bedding changed daily], and 3 meals a day. Nurse on duty around the clock. Prior to Memory Care, he had a lovely good size apartment in the Independent Living section of the same complex, which was around $5k per month.

If hubby moves to a Memory Care, try to find one close by so you could join him or his meals [you would be charged for the meal]. Or if you can budget for two separate rooms with you living in Independent Living, that might work, too.

You have a lot to think about. Hope you find a win-win situation.

Start googling facilities on-line, look up reviews, and call the facilities. The one we recently put my mother in law in gave us a tour. You can call the council on aging and they will send you a list of resources.

Well, based on your profile, your husband has greater needs than what an Assisted Living Facility is able to provide him with. In general, AL is looking for residents who are fairly independent and who don't require much help at all; they need to be 1 person assists, meaning if they require the help of 2 caregivers to get them up and about, then AL isn't a good option. Your DH is wheelchair bound and prone to many falls, has dementia and so on, plus you are income limited, so you may need to apply for Medicaid and get him into a Skilled Nursing Facility. My suggestion to you is to call an Elder Care attorney in your area to discuss that process and to get his or her advice on how to go about it.

Like JoAnn said, your county Social Services agency may also be able to help you. Is your daughter expecting you to do all this on your own, or is she going to help you figure out how to help you??

Wishing you the very best of luck with a difficult situation; God bless you and your dear husband.

I used APlaceforMom.com to find a place for my mother, and they were fantastic. Yes, you'll start getting phone calls immediately, but they're from the places you might want to visit. Start making a list of all those places as they call, then go visit them. By law, once you tell them you aren't interested, they have to stop calling, and every place I asked to stop calling did so immediately. There's no need for telling them a lie -- simply tell them you are no longer interested in their place if necessary.

Know what you can afford first and foremost, because you don't want to have to move if you run out of money. Consult with a financial adviser or a Medicaid specialist before you do anything else.

Is your daughter willing to help? Do you have assets for Assisted Living? I suggest you contact your local council on aging to find out how to negotiate this search. Assisted livings in your area will be listed on line or in phone books as with anything else. If you need more help you may want to consider such agencies as the most commonly known "A Place For Mom" that will visit with you, take a list of your assets, take a list of your limitations and needs, and take you to visit the places in your area. We hear a lot of pro and a lot of cons when we speak of these agencies. They make their money by the place you choose, not from you, and they will hound you daily by phone to ask if you are still interested. So at some point give them the white lie (if lie it is) that you are on medicaid. Medicaid doesn't pay for Assisted Living and once they fear you have no assets any longer they will be very uninterested in you.
Be careful. Know you don't have to be specific about assets, accounts and such and you SHOULD NOT. Simply give them a ballpark number.
There are many options. You might consider Board and Care as well.
Wishing you good luck. Tell your daughter that her help with all this will get you out of her hair all the sooner.

Do you have any money saved? ALs are at least 5k a month or more and there are two of you. Unless Ga Medicaid will pay for ALs. And ur very near Atlanta. Most States don't. Mine you have private pay for at least 2 years before Medicaid will pay.

I suggest to go to ur County Social Service office and see how Medicaid can help you. Either him going to a facility and you getting help with housing or getting help with housing and having in home help.