My mother in law has always been incontinent and controlling. For the past 9 years i was the nurse mate. I was expected to clean her sheets and wait on her while she visted.
She know wonts to come and stay for the holidays and stay overnight. She is extremely incontinent , non mobile and on oxygen. She refuses to wear two attends when she vists.she lives in a exclusive retirement community , in which she also, has private aides round the clock. She is also jealous of my 94 year old grandmother who lives with us. Unfortunately wheb she vists i have to ship my sweet grandmother off to stay with other family memebers. My grandmother is delightful and a huge help to and my gamily. My MIL has always expected to be waited on. I told my husband she can come for the day ans teturn home or bring her aides. Also, she will start to put the guilt trip on my husband. She will start to complain how she has to pay double time for aides on the holidays. She has the means she is not poor by any means. Due to the incontinence when she gets up in the morning her attends are soaked , egen she stands her bladder leaks on the carpet. In the past i have used rennents around the room. My house is not set up for her use. She needs help going to the bathroom. Anyway everyone says the samething she should come w her aide or just xome for the day. Trying to get my husband to understand is the problem. He does his share when she is here. I just dont know what to do. I cant help to feel resentment towards her. I cant be controlled by her. Oh yes sje uses money to control my husband.
I dont wont to subject my little to her unkindness. Please help me, my husband and i fight about this all the time many thanks