Youngish Mom is in the ICU long-term - What Can Her Far-Away Daughter Do? If this is the wrong place to ask this question and someone knows a better place, please let me know. I've been fortunate so far to not have to deal with my own parents' care as they are still quite independent, but it leaves me ignorant of how to advise someone. My future daughter-in-law, who I'll call DIL, is 23 and lives with me, 2200 miles from her single mom's home. Mom is only 57 and has been in the ICU due to intestinal trauma since January (over two months now) 180 miles from her home. DIL and Son have been living near the hospital where Mom is for the past four weeks in a furnished house I rented for a month for them. The month is nearly up, and finances are tight, but I could probably manage to support them for another few weeks (but house is no longer available as of a few days from now). Another problem is that DIL a) has her own medical issues and wants to come home to my house and b) is extremely reluctant to accept further financial assistance. Doctors at the hospital (where Mom was airlifted, hence being 180 miles from home) refuse to provide a date they expect to release Mom to rehab--they have provided estimates in the past and her condition worsened, so they're just not estimating anymore. DIL does not have power of attorney. She first didn't want to upset Mom, and then Mom was sedated and couldn't give consent. When Mom woke up last week, she was too weak to make a mark that the FIVE witnesses would accept on the POA forms. So DIL and Son are apparently coming home in a few days, against my advice to stay. I am frantic for Mom--what can be done in 3-4 days to better-ensure she gets the care she needs? What can DIL demand of hospital staff in terms of reporting (DIL is the one who has been authorizing the 18 surgeries Mom has had so far in this hospital alone, so she has some sort of authority, but isn't clear on exactly what it is)? Is having Mom transferred 2200 miles to the excellent hospitals near our home remotely possible? Currently she has her own insurance (we think through work--where she hasn't been in 2.5 months), but I'm not sure how long that will last before she has to apply for social security or medicare. A "friend" (non-romantic) has been taking care of Mom's bills, but again, we're not sure how long that will last, and Friend is not especially forthcoming with information. Friend has only visited Mom once in two months and possibly has a vested interest in her ultimate demise. I thought I had this adulting thing almost figured out, but this dramatic situation has really put me in my place in that regard! Any advice is welcome.