We cannot get him to shower. We have waited for the winter to pass, as he is always cold (understandable with age issues); we have gently told him he needs to do this. We know we cannot force him. Would perhaps hiring an outside agency to come in and assist (while we are here also) might help? He has been cheap all of his life and maybe knowing that we've had to pay someone to get him to do something essential might help. SO CONFUSED and feel stonewalled. Has anyone got any ideas that helped them?
I get all the reasons why; I understand how dementia figures into it. The bathroom is handicapped accessible, has a shower seat is is extremely safe (it was modified for just this reason). Thank you for any suggestions!