My daddy watched my aunt, his sister, go through dementia, & she was really bad. And her children didn't Care for her the way they should have, ( no one wanted her ). Daddy moved her in with us, because he was so sure he could fix her. That's actually when I realized that he was further along with his dementia than I thought. They fussed & fought like 2 little five year old kids.
So, I think in his mind it Scare's him to accept that he is going to go through that. I live with him, & I have been handling his finance's for 8 years now. He's 75, I'm 51, & my 47 yrs old twin brother & sister also live here. I get no help from them, just the opposite actually, ( I'm the prodigal daughter ). Anyway, I watch him reaching in his mind trying to remember a name, or place & he gets agitated because he knows he should remember, but can't. He tries to replace a word, or make one up, & tries to be funny about it. He's a very humorous, positive man, but some of his humour, of late, has been almost in appropriate. In fact his friends have no idea of his dementia, ( he's a biker, a cut up, practical joker ).
I've been just humouring him so far, but he's trying so hard find a common sense & logical explanation for why his mind skip's all the time, ( his word's ), & he can't remember things he should.
Sorry for going all over the place there, but I don't really have anybody to talk to. I am open to suggestions.