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My Dad's in his 70's and is having trouble remembering things. He yells at employees for being in the bathroom too long (10 mins). He then says he never did that. He is causing good employees to quit and we work for the company and we can't take it. He goes from being nice and then mad. He is seeing a bunch of doctors and he says nothing is wrong. he has no hobbies and has anxiety about going places. I would pay anything for someone to come in and spend time with him so he will stay out of the office. He just has nothing to do and has no purpose. My mother needs to come into the office sometimes and that is when the trouble starts. I hate to say it, but as far as the office goes, he gets in the way and constantly puts the company at risk. How do I bring someone in without him feeling that I am trying to keep him out of the way? We even got him a puppy last Halloween and that helped for awhile, but when my mom is at the office, there he is. Please, if you have any suggestions... My employees need some relief. I can take it some, but they have worked for us so many years to start over. The only things he is interested in is license plates, yoga and old family photos. Thanks for any help.

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Dad needs to be evaluated y a doc. There are some very simple tests to establish dementia. If dad won't agree to be tested can you fib a little to get him to a doc? Also, did this condition come on slowly or suddenly? I watched my dad very slowly lose his short term memory and ability to reason. My dad is usually a sweet old guy but can get very angry if he feels like someone is trying to control him or make him do something he does not want to do . He's always refused any tests for ad or dementia but his classic symptoms of dementia are very clear. To me it not really important any longer to know exactly what type of dementia he has.
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Start a mentorship program for a few of your best employees, your Dad can teach them the ropes, take them to assess properties, show properties in the field, not at the office. He could take them to lunch, or, they could take him. Don' t leave your Dad alone, he could be fearful about what is happening to him and not know how to express himself. I think people mostly know when their mind is going. Years before it is apparent to their loved ones, who are often in denial. Not every person of a certain age loses that much ability to function, maybe it is an illness he won't share. How was he on the weekend?
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My father and his parents started the business 50 years ago. He is an only child, so when they passed it all went to him. It is a real estate business. We have 250+ properties and we manage and maintain them all ourselves. My mother and I are trying to find something to take his mind off of it and keep him out of the office. He also hates being alone. Someone today said it may be the start of Alzheimer's. He has memory issues, but I'm not sure. Could this be it?
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I once worked for an abusive boss with a horrible temperment. He yelled at me in front of customers, I calmly walked out. I had seniority after only 7 wks. there! When he called me to find out if I was returning, I said yes, if you stop embarrassing yourself in front of customers. He stopped doing the yelling.
Stage a walkout, tell employees to all walk out when he arrives and yells. Yes, the boss was suffering some kind of later years rage, but he stopped it.
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Derwreck, is this a company that your parents or Dad had started? How long has the company been in existence?

One suggestion is to find some type of busy work for your Dad, something that will keep him out of the way of the other employees... you mentioned your Dad likes old photos, so many he could spend his time writing a book about the company from concept to today, gather old photos, create new photos, etc.

If your Dad has more than just normal age related memory issues, with writing a book he will re-write and re-write and re-write.... keeping him busy... he could interview some of the employees that have been there for awhile.

I am going through something similar with my own boss, who owns the company. He is still in the grieving stage losing his wife last year to Alzheimer's. The past couple of months he's been sniping and snarling at me and others in the office. We are trying to overlook it.
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I don't know what kind of business you're in or how many employees but would it be possible to have some confidential talks with employees about your fathers condition and ask them to please understand and ignore it? It sounds like classic dementia. Use this site to read about the signs of dementia and how to deal with it. And get him examined by a geriatric doc if possible. There are meds that may control his anger. You should also starting getting all your legal ducks in a row. Power of attorney, wills etc. if dad is uncooperative you may even have to start guardianship process if he is really incompetent and endangering himself, family, employees and the family business. I think you're in for a rough time. This is a great site to learn from. Stay in touch and good luck.
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