My dad is 89, has mild/moderate dementia, and still lives at home. I live in another state but have managed to keep him at his home (his big wish) with the help of local caregivers/friends, caring housemates (he has two) once-a-month visits and daily calls.
Most of the time, he refuses to get dressed, bathe and go outside even for a one-block walk. My concerns are that he wears the same underwear for days on end, stinks, and I have a feeling that his not changing adds to his lethargy. He bathes infrequently and won't let anyone help him with this, so it's always a little risk when he gets in the tub, though he has a shower chair.
I keep reading that exercise helps even more than drugs with dementia and Alzheimer's, but none of his caretakers have luck getting him to do any of this. When I was there two weeks ago he did go for a walk with me without a fight, but I am not there most of the time.
Has anyone had success getting a stubborn elder to change clothes, bathe and get out? Any tips? His main caretaker and I are often nagging him with few results.
Thanks so much for any tips!