Dad is 90 years old with vascular dementia and very crippled knees. He needs 24/7 care due to falling and other health needs. He is in deep denial that anything is wrong with him. He is highly agitated and angry with my sister and I, he thinks it's our fault he's in assisted living. The fact is, state elder care, pretty much forced him to be put there. (long story) He's been living in Assisted Living for 6 months and my sister and I are now in the process of organizing an auction and renting his home to assist with the cost of his assisted living. Due to his anger and anxiety, his doctor thought we should not tell him. The nurse at the facility said we should tell him, due to our small town, he'll hear it from someone else. We are now confused on what to do and if we do, how we will discuss it with him, due to his high anxiety and anger, toward us. Although he is angry and shows great anxiety when we visit, Assisted Living Nurse and other caregivers there say he's doing great. Was wondering if anyone else had a similar situation and how they handle it.