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It's just a part of his personality, not from a disease or aging. I should have known better than to cohabitate with my dad, but I felt a sense of responsibility after my mother passed several years ago. No, they weren't together, but had separated in 1981, but it didn't matter.
As far back as I can remember, he's had a short fuse. Even the dumbest, smallest things could set him off. I had hoped aging would "mellow" him a bit, but no such luck.
Here I am over 5 years into it and miserable. I write on forums/discussions and my own blog because it seems to be therapeutic for me. It also helps me forget, as I concentrate on crafting my words, paying more attention to syntax and grammar and less to meaning.
It's no easy task since I now have no source of income and my psych nurse practitioner thinks I may have chronic fatigue since none of the remedies/meds I have been given seem to help (they treat chronic fatigue as a disease by elimination). I get no social security since none of those doctors thought I was sick enough and I was in my late 30s (now 40) when I last got examined. I tell you this not because I want sympathy, but because people always suggest the obvious when trying to help. It doesn't work here.
The other thing I want to mention is that I'd really like for people to read my blog and feel free to send criticism and/or tell their own stories. My online friends think the blog is pretty funny, but I'd like people who know nothing about me to read, maybe even share :) Not only is writing therapeutic, but laughter is as well.

Thanks for reading :)

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oulu67: interesting...so, there is truth to aging "mellowing" a person. Lol...just not for my "dadzilla" :)
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my dad has always been cranky and rude. He's now old, has dementia, and cranky and rude. Getting old has made him a little nicer if you can believe that.
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"If you want SS and Medicare when you are 65, you have to earn that NOW" - from pamstegman.
I wasn't anticipating that would still be around, certainly not at 65. Maybe by 90, in which case I have 50 years to go
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You have no source of income? How are you eating? What is your plan for supporting yourself in your old age? Are you anticipating a large inheritance?

Humor is a good approach to most things. But everyone has got to eat.
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My father-in-law has always tended toward being cranky, angry, pissy, selfish, etc. And yes, these things have gotten worse with age. You have my sympathy!
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Only 40? You really need to get back to work, even if it means moving him to Assisted Living or a Nursing Home. When caregiving affects your own health, you need to get out to survive. If you want SS and Medicare when you are 65, you have to earn that NOW. Save your own life!!!
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Oops, almost forgot. Even though my blog url is in my profile, I meant to add it to the post: seniorcitizendad.blogspot
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