Dad is 90 and Mom is 89. Dad needs/wants to move to AL and has secured a unit there. He is very mentally stable, but has physical issues prompting the move. Mom refuses to go. She is 89 with mild to moderate dementia. Her doctor has declared her incompetent, so she has no choice in the move. She refuses to visit the facility. She won't leave the house, even to go to the doctor, and has refused to go to her last 3 appointments (hence another reason to make the move). My Dad, my brothers, and I are trying to find the easiest, kindest way to move Mom to the facility. Her doctor has prescribed medications to help make her more relaxed and less agitated, but they aren't working. If the move is brought up, she gets very angry. Even though she will probably forget what happens on moving day, we would like it to lessen the trauma for all involved. Dad knows we might have to get a medical transport for her, but it's very upsetting for him to think of doing that. I can't think of a way to get her out of the house so the move can take place. She won't go out for lunch or willingly go to anyone's house, even for a visit. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.