...so I had a painful conversation (if you can call it that) with my Dad this morning. After much personal mental anguish and guilt, I decided it was best to move Dad to full AL in May. Since then, his oxygen is managed well, his meds are on time, and they even prevent him from calling me every time something goes wrong. This morning, I was met with a tearful senior who stated that he hates the facility. Is that just the disease talking? Due to his eyesight (legally blind), advanced age and dementia, he struggles with ANYTHING electronic including the HVAC system (it doesn't help that he's only comfortable at 85 degrees or above), remote control, etc. which requires constant input from either me or the staff. Any attempt that I have made to simplify things go ignored on his part because he's DETERMINED to prove that he can do things himself. The result is either a boiling hot room or igloo or a TV that gets "stuck" on a channel because he's afraid to touch the remote control again. I can't tell you how many times I've come to visit and he's sitting in his room with a winter coat on staring at a black TV screen because he refuses to pull the cord and have a staff member to help him. Another part of me thinks this is his ploy to try to get me to pick up the slack, but thanks to CoDependent Anonymous meetings (a God send), I've learned how to draw boundaries and even NOT answer his repeated phone calls because I need a life of my own and we pay a TON of money for him to get help he refuses. So is there anything I can do? Moving him is NOT an option (not going down the road of doing everything again), and I think this is a beast of his own making. How can I encourage him to accept the help that we shell out money for every month? I truly believe if he would let the staff help him some of his self-imposed anxiety will dissipate. HELP!!!