Dad lived with my brother and sister-inlaw for 4 years. They had a living agreement that stipulated that my Dad would pay for a third of all household expenses such as food, utilities, heat etc. My sister-inlaw was in charge of that and kept all the receipts and spreadsheets for that. Then they also had a caregiver agreement that paid my brother for any time that he could not work if he had to care for our Dad. My brother has POA. All Dad's assets, house and car, were sold and went into his bank account. However, Dad had a habit of wanting to spend roughly about $500 a week on whatever and not keep receipts. Stuff that he would spend on was clothes, haircuts, books, sweets, cigerettes etc. but he never kept any receipts because he considered it his money and he earned the right to spend it on anything he wanted without anyone's approval. The only gifting he did was a card with $25 to all the 8 grandchildren and a $100 each Christmas to us 3 kids. That's $500 total each year that Dad would gift in cash but he spent on gifting but he managed to spend on miscellaneous stuff in cash about $25,000 a year. Over the course of 4 years he has burned through almost of his cash reserves. My brother could only take care of our Dad full time for the length of FMLA time that he could get time off for and had to check Dad into a memory care NH fascility. Dad only has enough money for 3 months and none of us kids can handle taking care of Dad physically or financially. The NH home says that they have a problem with the accounting of Dad's weekly cash spending habits without receipts. It is great that there is an accounting for living expenses and receipts for that. They were lukewarm about the reimbursement about my brother's timeoff reimbursements. It is the cash spending without receipts that is freaking them out. Not sure what to expect since none of our bank accounts got any of the money other than the Christmas gifting mentioned. Plus there are no big purchases made that you could point to say he spent it there. Dad was always spender and I never understood where or how he could spend that much on little stuff. So what happens now once Dad runs out of money and we kids can't take care of him anymore and we don't have any extra money to cover Dad's NH? My brother is freaking out and wished he never took in Dad now because he is worried that he going to lose his home over this. None of us kids make anything close to 6 figures so we are at a lose as to how this is going to turn out. Someone said he might wind up a ward of the state and the state will come after us to pay? Is this true? How does that work when we didn't get his weekly spending money? Really could use some advice and answers since none of us have money for a lawyer to sort this out.