I need reassurance i am on the right path, Dad has been at a good ALF for about 4 months now. They are kind. They treat him well. Very attentive. He has a 1 bedroom apt. Last Sunday he was having trouble breathing and they called ambulance. Hospital kept him for 3 days and i took him back yesterday. today they called me... he said they keeping him against his will and they now want to put him in memory care. i got him on the phone line and got a little strong with him like he used to with me. He wanted me down there NOW. i told him no. He settled down a little but i feel emotionally drained. i wish i could do this so it was easier on him, but he is so very obstinate. i am asking, i guess, for confirmation. i feel guilty. he wants to come home (of course). says he heard i sold his car. said he heard i was renting out his room (he lived here). i am exhausted and want to take a few days off work and just run away. Help!