My father has been the primary caregiver for my Mom with dementia for a couple of years now but in the past year things have gotten pretty bad. She relies on him for everything and he is not a natural caregiver. There are many nights when she doesn't sleep and he just gets frustrated with her.
Us kids think its time that he got more serious about her care. We have already been paying for a nurse to come one day a week, but we need him to start contributing. He has the attitude that he will spend the money when he needs to, but that he doesn't need to yet. We don't agree. We think she needs and deserves better care.
Its ultimately Dad's responsibility, but my sister thinks that if she sets it all up (respite care or full-time care) my Dad might just go along with it. I know that he's exhausted and at his wit's end, but I think he's unwilling to commit to anything that might be expensive until he really has no choice.
Has anyone been through this? Any advice?