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I'd say that much depends on how aggressive he is.

Most people are understanding if an elderly person says something like that. Try to distract your dad when he does so and then quietly mention his dementia to the woman as you lead your dad away.

However, if you dad is very aggressive you may have to do as Pam mentioned. If he grabs at women or physically tries to connect, you may have to limit his outings.

This is common and terribly sad. Trained caregivers know how to deal with this behavior, but people in a store should be able to shop with some semblance of peace.

Take care of yourself. We understand how hard this is.
Carol
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There is something about dementia that seems to activate the sex drive. So what if he wants a wife? Let him have his fantasy and enjoy the pursuit!
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When you are with him, you can make the situation less embarrassing for you and the other person by saying, "My father loves attractive women. He also has memory problems." Then move on to another subject or away from the person he commented on.
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When they get to this point, you do NOT take them out in public. Thank you.
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I think people should get over the taking out in public thing. The public doesn't need to be sheltered from him. I get upset when there are nurses or health workers who are upset by remarks of an intimate nature from a patient who obviously is losing his hypothalamus which controls impulse control - they basically have none. What they think, they say, or do. That's why they need the caregiver, who shouldn't even need to explain that to a caregiver. It can be painful at times though. My widowed Dad asked my Mom's best friend, if her husband was "dead yet" because he was interested in her. The sad part is her husband is very ill. mama mia, one less person we can ask over to keep him company. We can understand it, and we can move on, but sometimes we have to protect people from his gaffs, but not normally. We sometimes use the mall as a walking venue but we stopped taking him on the side of the mall where the storefront exhibits exercise classes, or we wouldn't be able to get him to keep walking past the women as they do their aerobics. You adjust! You don't condemn, you adjust and explain.
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Thank you all for the answers and suggestions. Dad loves to go out for breakfast and it really makes him happy so until or unless he becomes aggressive I will continue to take him out.
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