I was added to my 85 y/o Dad's care team 3 months ago bcause he loved how it felt to have his daughter taking care of him. Daddy and I have always had a great relationship and could always talk about anything. But now that I'm in a caregiver position, sometimes out of town just he and I, he second-guesses me constantly, and seems to assume I have not learned ANY life skills at the age of 52! Most of the time I tyr to deal with it humorously... or I simply remind him that "I'm 52 years old!"... but it gets really freaking OLD havign someone assume you don't know anything. I'm not a blithering idiot and he knows that... but when he says "Well, I don't know what you know" I wanna scream! How about assuming maybe I know how to navigate the basics of life! Ater all, if I'm that dumb, I have no business taking care of him 24/ when we're out of town. He also feels no qualms about yelling at me... especially to "hurry up" which GALLS me to no end considering I end up having to do all the packing, loading, unloading, etc. It takes all I have not to blow up at him... I just try to gently remind him... but last time I tried to let him know it upsets me to get yelled at, he stewed about it for hours, and then came and picked a fight with me and claimed he never did that. Well, jeez. I know when I'm being yelled at! I tried to explain that I understand parent/child dynamics are at play here, and he interrupted me and mockingly said, you mean CHILD/parent and totally missed the point of what I was trying to say. I'm not used to anyone picking fights with me and I am a lifetime conflict-avoidant. He and Mom, who passed away last November, used to bicker constantly. I think he misses that, but I am NOT having it! Now I dread spending time with him because I feel a really important trust has been broken. I love my Dad so much and I don't want to start resenting signing up to help him. BTW I only get paid $125 a week, so that's all I got for 8 days of 24/ care. My husband and teenage son, not to mention all of our pets, are feeling very neglected. I just can't win. Someone is always disappointed and feeling neglected. Thoughts?