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I found out that my father who lives by himself is allowing a 60 year old man who he met in the park, who is homeless to come to his house to eat and take a shower. He is also going to the grocery store to buy him food. The man states that his wife died about 6 months ago. My father told him that I would not approve of this and had to stop. The man told my father that this is his house and he can do what he wants to do. This man has had 25 criminal charges and/or convictions.

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Lovingson1960, many times one will reach out to others, no matter whom, when they want someone to talk to. A suggestion would be for your Dad to move to a retirement village where he can talk to people from his own generation and be in a save environment while doing so.
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Consider some security cameras at his house, he is an easy target for predatory types. If he carries a cell phone, you can get tracking and alert software to tell you if he wanders outside a pre set area.
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Get the man he walks with to help him understand that letting homeless people come to his house to shower isn't a good idea. Maybe he'll listen to him.
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He does have a soft heart and is naive to the works that we live in
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He still drives and normally thinks clearly. However he walked In this park 10 yrs ago and got mugged. My mother died in April 2013 and I just found out at Christmas that he has been walking again in this park. He also meets another man in the park to walk with. I found this out when the man visited his home when I was there. He promised me that he would not get out of his car unless this man was in the park. This man has been a friend of our family for a long time. I had no idea that this other man had met him and has been coming to his house.
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Yikes. Does your dad have dementia? It sounds like he's either a soft touch or his critical thinking skills are gone.

I worked with the homeless in our community (as a volunteer) and one of the things they stressed was not to give them your last name or to see them outside of their structured support environment. When they first started the program, one of the volunteers struck up a friendship with a homeless woman who started staying with the volunteer. Her boyfriend started staying as well and to make a long story short, they murdered the volunteer. It almost sank the program. That's not to say in any way that homeless people are going to murder your father, but he needs to leave their care to professionals who have the structure to offer help and to determine how to protect the volunteers. If he can't understand that, then he needs to be monitored more closely, because his cognitive skills aren't there.

I'd contact the local police department to see if one of the officers would speak to your dad about the dangers of what he's doing. Or someone from the local homeless group that offers support. Good luck and keep us posted!
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